Honouring and respecting our life paths

Last week I posted this video following and interesting conversation with someone! The person seemed shocked that I was very accepting of the challenges before me in regards of someone else’s life path! I’d like to unfold here how you can also be Stoic and compassionate when you are facing difficult challenges, situations and people at work or at home!

Where Our Difficulties Are Coming From

I believe we can all agree that at times the going gets difficult! We face life unfolding as it is, with is load of situations, circumstances and people that may be triggering for us difficult emotions, thoughts and reactions! From experience I can assure you that it does not have to do with them but with us! As Epictetus said:

“It is not things that upset you, but your own judgment about them!”

In such a situation, the Stoics would advise us to use what nature gave us: Our own ruling power! What they mean by that, is that you, you are the one who sees what’s happening! You are more than your mind and body! You are a consciousness! That same consciousness is your ultimate power when used effectively! You may go down in a rabbit hole, thinking negative stuff, feeling even more like crap when the challenges occur! That would be a sign that you are letting your consciousness be attracted by a very low energy, driven by your ego’s attempt to protect itself! It is in those moments that we need to recognize our mental loops and emotions, acknowledge that they are present (don’t fight with it, it’s already there) and decide to let them go! Recover the clarity of your mind by allowing your consciousness to reckon what is going on and using your infinite consciousness willpower to change the narrative!

At some point in our own heroic path, our spiritual journey, we start to recognize for ourselves, hence for others too, that we all have our own paths! Life experiences and soul contracts made us like we are, facing our unique path filled our dragons to slay! For some it might be trust, others worthiness, a lot of self-confidence and so on!

For instance, I for a long time, was seeking external love! When we miss of that love in your youth, we tend to try to compensate by finding it in all sorts of external sources! Being in that quest, I looked up to girlfriends, bosses, friends to validate me and give me some of that love! When I did not feel it anymore, it was time to find it somewhere else! The moment I understood, and experimented, that the love I was seeking was already inside, wheeling up with infinite source, the shift happened!

Honouring and Respecting Our Path

When we start to notice all of the conditioning and patterns that our life is running on, and start to transform them, we also realize that it is not different for others! We can therefore have more understanding and compassion for others knowing that they are also going through they own unique life path! I always say:

“It’s all about unlearning.”

We’ve stored inside of us so many ways emotions and ways of thinking about our situations that they create habitual responses! Without clinching we find it normal to react in a certain way because of outside events. In reality they are all illusions tricking you in falling down to your egos trap!

The next time you face something difficult, I would suggest to change the way you see it! Instead of wearing the Kryptonite glasses, wear the jewels glasses! What challenges you inside is not something that you want to get away from and hide. It is not kryptonite depleting you of your powers! The truth is, they are your jewels! The ones that if you have the courage to face and polish, will liberate you from your own misery!

Let me give you another example! If you are a parent and you are getting all bottled up inside when your kid tells you: “ I don’t like you”! There is a good chance that this is triggering a very strong emotion within you that you can associate with certain events where you were not feeling loved! PERFECT! This is your chance to use this situation to transform it once and for all!

You are loved and worthy! Many people love and care for you, even some that you may not know! Most importantly, the source of all things (some call it God, Buddha, Live, The Universe, The Dao… whatever fits you), that source loves you unconditionally! You are a spark of that divine source and love is flowing through you right now! Know that, connect with that!

Honour and respect those opportunities to free you from yourself. This is your highest path and vocation! Once you operate from that place, everything and everyone you’ll touch will be blessed by your high vibrations and love! And when you’ll get trigger by someone or something, remember that you have some work to do, that is your own, and they also have their own! Bring compassion into your journey and offer it! It has tremendous power!

Let’s all shine those jewels,

I believe in you and love you!

Max

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